Teenage beauty

Beauty.
If you look up the word beauty in a dictionary there will probably be lots of definitions. But the one I immediately noticed was: "A very attractive and well-formed woman."
Can anyone give a definition of that? No. What is attractive to one person may be unattractive to another. But be as that may all women strive to be beautiful - to be an attractive and well-formed woman. But what will people do to reach their goal? More importantly what does this fight for beauty and perfection do to our society?

What made me think about all of this was Gok Wan's Body Confidence Class which you can see above. In fact I've thought about this many times. But I've never imagined it  was this bad.
The magazines and the movie makers make a perfect poster woman and man. They take the flaws on their bodies and photoshop them. As Gok Wan shows the girls in the clip Keira Knightly is a good example of it. This makes the girls think that they need big breasts and a thin as a stick body.
But is it only the girls' and women's thoughts of how the body of a woman should look like? No. I believe that it also affects the way boys and men look at the body of a woman. They expect a girl to be skinny, have big breasts and look like Keira Knightly, Megan Fox and so on.
The way magazines and movies portrait the women and the expectations of how to look from the men, makes a young girl strive even more to look like the women she sees on the cover of Vogue, Elle and what else magazines she might read. But we are not all born with a super skinny body. And even those who are strive to be even skinnier. How many girls does not struggle with eating disorders because she feels fat even though she's actually underweight?
All of these expectations have consequences. Like self-harm, eating disorders, bad confidence and the list goes on. But as can be seen in the clip it is not only girls who suffers under these expectations. It's also the boys. They have a lot to live up to. The men on adverts and movies has six-packs and big muscles and this is what the girls want. So just like the girls they strive to achieve the perfect, the ideal body.
As an example for both I can use some incidents from my every day life. My sister goes around saying she's fat and how she wishes her thighs were thinner. All because of what she sees in the television and in the magazines. She's nowhere near fat! In fact she is underweight. I try and try to make her understand that she's perfect the way she is, but who wants to hear that from someone who once said the same thing?
As for the boys. I overheard some girls, who had just seen the first part of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, say that they did not think Daniel Radcliffe was 'hot' because he is 'chubby.' I thought about it for a second and couldn't say I thought the same. I didn't think more about it before I talked to a friend about it. She said: "They only say he's chubby because he doesn't have a six-pack! And Why is it that guys need to have a six-pack?! Those who does not have a six-pack but muscles on their arms and legs.. They are the hot guys!" And I could only agree.

Now. Sorry for the long entry but now my question to all of you reading this is: Do you think that all of this poster perfect body ruins the way people look at their body?

What is love?

Love.
Everybody talks about it. Everyone dreams about it. But how does it actually feel?
Is it really the warm feeling in every part of your body? Does it really feel like there's a whole colony of butterflies in your stomach when you see this special person? Or is it just an idea we get from books?
I can't say that I know the answer to this. Because I don't know if I've ever been really in love. I love my mum, sister and father, but I think we all agree when I say that that's a different kind of love.
Maybe I am too young to know the feeling of real love from an other human being - that isn't my friends, mum, sister and father. But still I can't help but wonder about this feeling people talk about.
Maybe I did feel it but can't remember it because I don't want to remember it? Or maybe I was just with the wrong persons?
I can't say that my break ups have ever really hurt. I know that my first 'love' really wasn't that. It isn't love when you convince yourself so much, that you love a person, that you end up believing it.

It's so easy, to think about love, to talk about love, to wish for love, but it is not always easy to recognize love, even when we hold it in our hands.

-Jaka. 

But one thing I know is that I don't believe in the kind of love that you find in books like Twilight. I do not believe that you can be with your first love forever. Neither do I believe in love at first sight. I believe in lust at first sight. I think that love starts as lust and then as you get to know a person, it morphs into love.
My mum always say to me: "Please keep in mind that you are still young and need to experience life." My mum was with my father for about 20 years. She was 15 and my father was 18. She wasted her life on him and they did not stay together. Now she's alone and he has a wife. That is why my mum keeps reminding me.
But even as cold and heartless I may seem, I still feel lonely whenever my friends starts talking about how handsome and nice their boyfriends are. It's been a while since I've been in any kind of relationship, and I kind of miss the feeling of knowing that you have someone, who will pity you after a long day with hard work.

What do you guys think? Is love really this butterfly in the stomach feeling? Do you believe in love at first sight? And what is love exactly? Let me know and tell me why if you can.

Tired.

Tired. To be tired.

I don't know why but I am tired all the time. I sleep 10 hours or so - which I heard is what you need to sleep - and I am still so tired the day after that I am close to falling asleep in my lessons. Actually I have sleep a couple of times in some of my lessons this week.

I'm sure you all know it. You have a boring lesson, you space out and before you know it you've dosed off. Which isn't so good when the lessons you fall asleep in is the ones you could have as an exam in a few weeks.

Normally I always do my homework. Well.. Most if it anyways. But at this moment I am to tired to focus on what I am reading. As soon as I've read the sentence it is forgotten. And don't get me started on the way my body's feeling! It's heavy and I'm out of energy.

Have any of you dosed off in a lesson and did anyone notice it? Tell me about it.

Keep calm..

Keep calm, Girls..

I thought this would be fun after my last post. But hurry up girls if you want to be a princess!

Princess Wedding

Wether you call it a princess wedding or a fairy tale wedding, it is one of the things most girls dream about when they're little. Most girls I said. Not all. I never dreamed about getting married but then again I am not most girls.

To get your typical fairy tale wedding you need Prince Charming. Prince Charming is of course the love of your life and he is absolutely perfect. Or so I heard.

So.. You've got Prince Charming and what else do you need? The perfect dress of course! 

Last friday I was watching the Royal Wedding of Prince William and now Princess Kate. And for the first time in my life I was considering getting married. I've always said: "I will never get married! It only complicate things!" I can't say that I've changed my mind cos I still think it complicates things.

...But if any of you saw it: Did you see her dress? If I ever find Prince charming I am going to have a dress like that!

Men always want to be a woman's first love - Women like to be a mans last romance.

Oscar Wilde.

I think that Prince William and Princess Kate, as she is known as now, is a picture of love. I won't say true love because.. Who knows when love is true? At the picture I've posted with this, we see their kiss on the balcony. Shy people they are. Cute. This might be the Prince Charming most girls dream about.

What do you think?